114: How to create deeper connections with people – with Adam Wilder

Q: as we start to define our “new normal,” how do we begin to create deeper connections with people in our work and life as we reemerge once again? My guest today believes the answer is simple: empathy.

My special guest today is Adam Wilder of the Togetherness movement and he’s simplifying how to create deeper connections with people through empathy. He reminds us that this work starts from within, creating deeper empathy for ourselves first and then rippling out from there. 

Adam is a trailblazer in the world of human connection and I hope you find this conversation inspiring as you start to redefine and reframe how you approach the important relationships in your life, both personally and professionally.

This pandemic is a real opportunity for us to reimagine what life could look like from this point forward. Prior to it, many of us were stuck in a hamster wheel of exhaustion, disconnection, greed, scarcity, busy-ness, and inequity. 

But what if life could NOW be focused on something greater, something simpler but more profound? A life and a pace that was rooted deep in togetherness, with gratitude for mother Earth and greater empathy for each other and for ourselves? 

What would that feel like?

I believe everything is unfolding in perfect timing… and I have great faith in what we are cultivating together.

My special guest today is Adam Wilder and he’s simplifying how to create deeper connections with people through empathy.

We tackle all aspects of it, including:

• The fact that we are living in unprecedented times and are learning how to thrive through a pandemic and social isolation – Adam shares his initial thoughts on what the possible fallout effect of this pandemic will be in the coming weeks ahead
• The first step to consider taking, in order to create deeper connections with other people
• What “sovereignty” is all about and how you can be more sovereign over your own life
• How to become a better listener so other people really feel heard and foster a deeper connection with you
• Simple ways you can ripple out the love in your local communities to create more togetherness, globally

Q: Are you feeling a sense of disconnection right now, as we all are making our way through COVID-19? If yes, this one is for you.

It’s time to #DoTheThing!

<What’s helping today with COVID-19>

• Morning Gloryville – Quarantunes Online Wellness Rave
• Buckinghamshire couple dress in period costumes for walks
• Stories of Belonging: Wendy | Sephora
• Mary is featured in The Times newspaper, sharing her business story and how she’s pivoting through COVID-19

Links, books and apps mentioned:

Book: Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself – Dr. Kristin Neff

Resource: TED talk – This could be why you’re depressed or anxious – Johann Hari

Poem: The Guest House – Jellaludin Rumi

Online Event: The Embodiment Circle, every Thursday at 5pm BST in April & May 2020 – Adam Wilder

Podcast: How to rebuild community, despite social distancing, featuring Neil Greenwood  – The Simplifiers Podcast

Podcast: How to be a kind person (more often than not) – The Simplifiers Podcast

About Adam Wilder

Adam Wilder – He is a trained counsellor and founder of the Togetherness movement which helps people wake up their natural ability to form good relationships with themselves and others.

In 2019, he created the House of Togetherness pop-up in central London, a venue created specifically for activities based on meaningful human connection.

Adam is also known for creating Shhh Dating, the world’s first silent speed dating event which helps singles find love through eye gazing and non-verbal flirting games.