109: How to avoid the comparison trap – with Anna Dunleavy

By March 17, 2020The Simplifiers Podcast

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Q: Have you ever found yourself stuck in the comparison trap and not sure how to avoid it? That’s that yucky feeling like everyone else is way, way, WAY farther ahead of you and you should be further along than you already are. They seem to have all things figured out and you’re feeling like you’ve barely remembered to wear clean socks today. (No? Just me… okay, carry on!)


My special guest today is Anna Dunleavy and she’s simplifying how to avoid the comparison trap. 

We tackle all aspects of it, including how to squash your imposter syndrome, quiet down your inner critic, and the most important bit… how to tap into your inner knowing, your Intuition to bring about a sense of calm in these very uncertain times.

(NOTE: This episode was recorded at the end of February 2020 and while the world seems a bit upside down at the moment with the Coronavirus, I wanted to share an episode that is timeless and affects all of us at some point in our career journey.)

The good news is… you can squash the fear and step out of the comparison trap at any time. Have a listen to this conversation, try a few new ideas, and let me know what’s working for you these days.

Reach out and leave me a voicemail… Click the blue button of the right of this page that says “Send Mary a Voicemail” I’d love to hear from you.

How are you avoiding the comparison trap in your work?

It’s time to #DoTheThing!

My challenge for you this week:

How are you going to take what you’ve learned in today’s episode and avoid your own comparison trap this week? What’s one thing you could do differently to see if it makes a positive change? Share it with me, privately or publicly. Snap a photo of you doing the thing, and tag @thesimplifiers on Instagram for added accountability and support!

Links, books and apps mentioned:

Book: Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones – James Clear

Resource: Mindset Reset – 5 days to an abundant mindset: a five part email series designed to help you cultivate an abundant mindset – Anna Dunleavy

App: Insight Timer – #1 free meditation app for sleep, anxiety and stress

Blog: 3 simple ways to stop comparing yourself to others – The Simplifiers

Podcast: The Fearless Hustle Collective – Anna Dunleavy

Podcast: How to (actually) keep calm & carry on, featuring Roger Jackson  – The Simplifiers Podcast

Podcast: How to do less, accomplish more – The Simplifiers Podcast

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About Anna Dunleavy

Anna DunleavyShe is an NLP mindset coach for women in business and a wedding photographer. She took her business full time two years ago, and has been organising monthly meet ups for creative women in Nottingham ever since. 

She’s also the host of the Fearless Hustle Collective podcast, talking about the ups and downs of running your own business.

Where Anna hangs out online:

Website: annadunleavy.com

Instagram: @anna_dunleavy

Anna’s vote for the perfect guest on The Simplifiers Podcast:

Jo Hooper – She is the founder of the Mad & Sad Club, helping people set healthier boundaries around work for their mental health and wellness.

Anna Dunleavy

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