056: How to Apply the 5 Love Languages in the Workplace – with Dr. Paul White

By March 12, 2019The Simplifiers Podcast

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If you’re a big fan of the book, The 5 Love Languages (like me), you know how this simple principle starts to open up BIG revelations about the people in your life… your partner, your kids, your parents, your friends, everyone. But have you ever thought about how the 5 Love Languages could translate to the workplace?

My guest, author Dr. Paul White simplifies how to apply the 5 love languages at work

Dr. Paul White co-authored The 5 Languages of Appreciation in the Workplace with Dr Gary Chapman. And today, he’s simplifying how to apply the The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts whilst at work.

He believes this is the secret to creating a healthy work culture where everyone on your team feels truly valued and appreciated.


In this episode, you will learn:

  • What the 5 Love Languages are and how they translate into the “5 Languages of Appreciation” when in the workplace
  • Why appreciation is so (darn) important at work… (spoiler alert: not everyone is motivated by more money!)
  • What the difference is between employee appreciation vs. recognition
  • What the warning signs are that a team member is not happy and what you can do to course correct the situation
  • How to apply this principle when working with Millennials and Gen-Z team members. Plus how to effectively manage remote and long distance teams
  • How to (ultimately) create a vibrant workplace and not a toxic one

Just the same as the 5 Love Languages, don’t expect your co-workers to feel appreciated in the exact same way as each other.

Dr. Paul teaches us how to express genuine appreciation to each of your co-workers and staff, even if you’re working on a tight budget. And over time, he believes this will increase loyalty, reduce cynicism and create a more positive work environment. All fascinating stuff!


My challenge for you this week:

Spend some time figuring out how to encourage your ‘hired help’ to feel valued and appreciated. Share it with me, privately or publicly, by snapping a photo of you doing the thing and tag @thesimplifiers on Instagram for added accountability and support!

Links, people and apps mentioned:

Book: The Vibrant Workplace: Overcoming the Obstacles to Building a Culture of Appreciation – Dr. Paul White

Book: The Advantage: Why Organizational Health Trumps Everything Else In Business – Patrick M. Lencioni

Book: To Sell is Human: The Surprising Truth About Persuading, Convincing, and Influencing Others – Daniel H Pink

App: Zoom for video conferencing

Resource: Free resource as mentioned by Dr. Paul White

Favorite quotes from this episode:

[16:23] “It makes a huge difference in the functioning, the healthiness, the productivity, and even the profitability of a company, when team members and staff feel valued.” – Dr. Paul White

[13:47] “We do polls and we said, how do you want to be shown appreciation remotely? One of the key things is video conferencing, but not just email, not just phone, but having that facial visual connection is really important.” – Dr. Paul White

[26:12] “If people aren’t happy, they talk about it and they share it and it grows. And so you’ve got to sort of nip it in the bud and figure out what’s going on.” – Dr. Paul White

[27:28] “You really have to have that foresight to zoom out and go, ‘Wow, if I don’t do something about this, this could really set us off track. And then I start to lose other amazing talent that are on my team as well.'” – Mary

[34:29] “As companies evolve, as small businesses become so much more viable for so many people who are jumping off the corporate nine-to-five, and sparking out on their own, having this kind of simple framework really does incredible things to develop yourself as a leader.” – Mary

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About Paul:

Dr. Paul White, PhD, is a psychologist, speaker, consultant and author whose passion is ‘making work relationships work.’

For over 20 years, he has assisted businesses, government agencies, schools and non-profit agencies to:

  • Improve staff morale and create positive work environments
  • Learn how to communicate individualized, authentic appreciation among team members
  • Reduce the sarcasm, cynicism, and negativity associated with toxic work environments, and
  • Build positive work cultures by discovering how to overcome the most common obstacles faced

Paul’s vote for the perfect guest on The Simplifiers Podcast:

John Ruhlin – author of Giftology: The Art and Science of Using Gifts to Cut Through the Noise, Increase Referrals, and Strengthen Client Retention

Where Paul hangs out online:

Website: appreciationatwork.com

Facebook: @appreciationatwork

Twitter: @doctorpaulwhite

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