264: How to cultivate gratitude + happiness – with Nancy Davis Kho (ALL-STAR)

By November 8, 2022December 20th, 2022The Simplifiers Podcast

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I love this all-star episode so much and it’s perfect for our theme of Gratitude and Grace this month, talking all about how to cultivate gratitude. 

My special guest today is author Nancy Davis Kho and she’s simplifying how to cultivate gratitude and lasting happiness in your life by writing one letter at a time. Nancy has found healing through writing and her latest book, ‘The Thank-You Project,’ recounts her experience of writing thank-you letters to 50 people, places and pastimes that have shaped her lifetime so far. If you’re looking to heal old wounds or create more gratitude in your life, this episode is for you.

Here’s how.


My special guest today is Nancy Davis Kho and she’s simplifying how to cultivate gratitude + happiness.

In this episode, you will learn:

  • Why the practice of “deliberate gratitude” has the power to be restorative in our lives and mental wellness
  • How writing thank-you notes (even ones you DON’T send) can help you create more resiliency, happiness and connection in your work and life
  • What the “Thank-You Project” is and how to try it yourself in 3 simple steps… see, say, savor
  • How to decide which letters you could write first and why
    • Who has helped me and how?
    • Who has shaped me and how?
    • Who has inspired me and how?
  • How to decide which letters to send and which NOT to send… and why
  • …and ultimately, she shares the profound life lessons that she learned in this year-long experiment that helped her change the trajectory of things, in a good way.

I know that there is so much joy that can be found when I reconnect with beloved people from my past. When you muster up the courage to check-in, touch base, and write a letter from the heart, good things always come in return. Even if you write the letter and never send it, your heart softens, gratitude rises, and release happens. 

Lasting happiness isn’t a fluke… 

It’s something that you can cultivate and is within reach today. So, pull out your journal while listening to this one… you might find yourself inspired to write (and possibly, send) a letter to a loved one soon.

Ok, let’s jump into our time machine and go back to December 2019 when this conversation originally aired and simplify how to cultivate gratitude and happiness with author Nancy Davis Kho…

You can do it, I believe in you… it’s time to simplify!

Q: Are you trying to figure out how to cultivate more gratitude and happiness in your life? If yes, this one is for you.

It’s time to #DoTheThing

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My challenge for you this week:

How are you going to take what you’ve learned in today’s episode and cultivate more gratitude and happiness this week? What’s one thing you’ll do differently? Share it with me, privately or publicly. Snap a photo of you doing the thing, and tag @thesimplifiers on Instagram for added accountability and support!

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About Nancy Davis Kho

Nancy Davis Kho – She is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in the Washington Post, San Francisco Chronicle, US Magazine, The Rumpus, and The Toast. She’s been recognized as a Voice of the Year in the Humor Category by BlogHer and was the inaugural champion of Oakland’s Literary Death Match. She covers “the years between being hip and breaking one” at MidlifeMixtape.com and on the Midlife Mixtape Podcast, available on all major podcast platforms.

Where Nancy hangs out online:

Website: daviskho.com

Facebook: @midlifemixtape

Instagram: @midlifemixtape

Twitter: @midlifemixtape

Nancy’s vote for the perfect guest on The Simplifiers Podcast:

Tiffany Klein – Owner and Event Planner at Rosecrest Special Events has been planning and hosting parties, big and small, for more than 20 years. Her ability to create one-of-a-kind event experiences in the Bay Area is like none other.

Nancy Davis Kho

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