Q: if you’re finding yourself on the other side of divorce, you might be wondering, how in the world do you build love together (once again) in blended families? Is it possible? Is it worth it? Or is that all just a pipe dream?
My special guest today is licensed marriage and family therapist, Ron L. Deal and he’s simplifying how to build love together in blended families. That’s where two adults fall in love and bring children into the mix from previous relationships… blended all together.
Sounds complicated, right?
Well, what a perfect topic to simplify, then!
Contents
My special guest today is Ron L. Deal and he’s simplifying how to build love in blended families.
We tackle all aspects of it, including:
- What the dynamics are inside a stepfamily that makes love so tricky
- How to apply the 5 Love Languages to each person in your blended family
- The “5 P’s of Step-Parenting” are:
- Partner
- Pursue
- Pace
- Patience
- Persistence (and Prayer!)
- How to tackle any underlying grief that might be happening underneath it all
- …and some top tips for those couples who’ve decided to separate and become co-parents
Ron wrote this book in tandem with Dr. Gary Chapman, a friend and fan-favorite of the show… so I knew I wanted to have him on to continue the conversation. Because as you know, what happens at home also affects how you show up at work. So, let’s simplify this!
Q: Are you struggling with how to build love in your blended family situation? If yes, this one is for you.
It’s time to #DoTheThing!
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My challenge for you this week:
How are you going to take what you’ve learned in today’s episode and love on your blended families this week? What’s one thing you’ll do differently? Share it with me, privately or publicly. Snap a photo of you doing the thing, and tag @thesimplifiers on Instagram for added accountability and support!
Links, books and apps mentioned:
Book: Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart – Ron L. Deal + Dr. Gary Chapman
Book: The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts – Dr. Gary Chapman
Online Event: Date Night at Home with Dr. Gary Chapman
Podcast: How to simplify the 5 Love Languages, featuring Dr. Gary Chapman – The Simplifiers Podcast
Podcast: How to squash your limiting self-beliefs – The Simplifiers Podcast
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About Ron L. Deal
Ron L. Deal – He is one of the most widely read and viewed experts on blended families in the world.
He is founder of Smart Stepfamilies, Director of FamilyLife Blended, and the author of his latest bestselling book: Building Love Together in Blended Families: The 5 Love Languages and Becoming Stepfamily Smart with Dr. Gary Chapman.
Ron is a licensed marriage and family therapist, public speaker, and host of the podcast FamilyLife Blended with Ron Deal. He and his wife, Nan, have three sons and live in Little Rock, Arkansas.
Where Ron hangs out online:
Website: RonDeal.org
Facebook: @SmartStepfamilies
Facebook: @FamilyLifeBlended
Twitter: @RonLDeal
Instagram: @FamilyLifeBlended
Ron’s vote for the perfect guest on The Simplifiers Podcast:
Dr Juli Slattery – She is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy, helping people heal from sexual brokenness and find wholeness by rethinking sexuality.

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