Ever been in a heated debate (or worse) an argument where you flat-out disagreed with the other person? How did it go? How did it end? And more importantly, how is that relationship doing after that conversation? Let’s talk about respect today, my friend!
My special guest today is author Justin Jones-Fosu and he’s simplifying how to respectfully disagree, both at work and at home. As you think about the potential critical conversations that might happen today or this week ahead, I hope today’s conversation gives you deeper insight on how to keep your cool, not get triggered, but equally, how to gain a deeper understanding of the other side (even if you still disagree after that), so you can maintain a strong working relationship built on dignity, being valued, and solid respect.
Here’s how.
My special guest today is Justin Jones-Fosu and he’s simplifying how to respectfully disagree.
We tackle and simplify all aspects of it, including:
- Why he’s not a big fan of the term “civil discourse” and instead, he suggests there’s a better way to frame things so your communication comes from the heart.
- What “golden respect” is and how it can help you become a better listener and communicator.
- How your earliest role models in life are the ones who’ve shaped your communication style now. He talks about his earliest memories of his mom and how she “planted the seeds of humanity” in him that rooted his current work in respectful conversations.
- What the 5 pillars of respectfully disagreeing are and 1-2 practical tips that you can test out today.some text
- Challenge your perspective
- Be the student
- Cultivate your curiosity
- Seek the gray
- Agree to respect
- …and ultimately, when someone says something to you that is especially triggering and/or emotionally charged to get a rise out of you, how to handle that situation in the best possible way, moving forward.
Q: Are you ready to learn how to respectfully disagree? If yes, this one is for you.
It’s time to #DoTheThing!
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<What’s catching my eye this week>
- 3 hours of (free) focus music for deep concentration - Quiet Quest - Study Music
- How to become a better listener - Robin Abrahams, Boris Groysberg - Harvard Business Review
- 50 powerful questions to help you reflect - Marion Tilly - The Institute of You
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My challenge for you this week:
How are you going to take what you’ve learned in today’s episode and take action to respectfully disagree with someone this week? What’s one thing you’ll do differently? Share it with me, privately or publicly. Snap a photo of you doing the thing, and send me a DM over on LinkedIn (https://www.linkedin.com/in/thesimplifiers) for added accountability and support!
Links, books and apps mentioned:
Resource: Find Justin Jones-Fosu on LinkedIn - click here
Book: Long Walk to Freedom - Nelson Mandela
Video: Don't Take the Exit on People: A Diversity & Inclusion Approach - TEDxAsheville - Justin Jones-Fosu
Video: Circles of Grace challenge - Work Meaningful
Resource: Download the 5sc2 worksheet for FREE to set goals for better self-care - Work Meaningful
Podcast: How to rewire your thinking patterns, featuring Thomas Sterner - The Simplifiers Podcast
Podcast: How to choose what’s right for you (guided visualization - ALL-STAR) - The Simplifiers Podcast
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About Justin Jones-Fosu:
Justin Jones-Fosu - He is the driving force and CEO behind Work Meaningful, delivering powerful talks to organizations to transform corporate culture, improve inclusion and employee experience, and help teams do meaningful work so they can ascend to their peak potential through mastery of mindset, purpose, and performance.
He’s also the author of "Your WHY Matters NOW," "The Inclusive Mindset," and his latest book, “I Respectfully Disagree: How to have Difficult Conversations in a Divided World.” His work is a compass for those seeking direction on creating connections in an often-fragmented society.
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Where Justin hangs out online:
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/iworkmeaningful/
Website: https://workmeaningful.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/iworkmeaningful/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/justinjonesfosu
Justin’s vote for the perfect guest on The Simplifiers Podcast:
Raven Solomon - She is a futurist, global inclusion thought-leader, and a nationally recognized Certified Speaking Professional (CSP®) who prepares today’s generations of leaders and teams for the diversity of tomorrow through Future-Ready Inclusion™.
Raven's mission is simple-- to make spaces more inclusive. Through equipping people with the mindset, skillset, and toolset to be more inclusive in their decisions, practices, and everyday interactions, Raven is on a mission to prepare the workplace and marketplace for the diversity of the future.
She is the author of Leading Your Parents: 25 Rules to Effective Multigenerational Leadership for Millennials and Gen Z, where she shares leadership principles and practical advice for young professionals seeking to transition into leadership positions in today’s diverse workplace, and the founder of the Charlotte-based Center for Next Generation Leadership and Professional Development, a startup focused on providing soft-skill development to the leaders of tomorrow.
Raven is the host of The DEI ER, a weekly LinkedIn audio event gathering hundreds of inclusion professionals and advocates to advance inclusion, and The Generational View, a podcast centering cross-generational dialogue about important matters impacting society, culture and the workplace.
